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Stress Management: Like Brushing Your Teeth Only Much More Fun

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Did you know that stress can accumulate over time if not dealt with on a daily basis? It's kind of like plaque buildup on your teeth. If you don't brush and floss on a daily basis, the plaque hardens and causes gum disease and bad breath.

But as well as causing tooth decay, did you know that there's a correlation between plaque buildup, gingivitis, and even cancer??? In light of this, a little daily brushing and flossing seems like time well spent, doesn't it?

Like plaque, stress can build up, too, but it can contribute to a host of diseases, including obesity, high blood pressure, cardiac arrhythmia, anxiety, depression, thyroid disorders, high cholesterol, ulcers, immune dysfunction, headaches, diabetes, skin conditions, muscles aches, and many, many more.

According to WebMD, 75 to 90 percent of doctor's office visits are for stress-related ailments and complaints. Imagine what a few minutes of de-stressing every day could do to improve your overall quality of l…

Breaking Bad Emotional Habits

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All of us feel “bad” sometimes. Sad, angry, scared, anxious, irritated, and the list goes on. And while for the most part feelings like this are normal even on a daily basis, the trouble begins when the negative outweighs the positive.
Do you find yourself reacting negatively more often than not? Is every delay a source of irritation?  Do people just make you angry? Your spouse, your kids, your co-workers? Maybe even your friends? This is a sign that you’ve developed some chronic, negative emotional responses.
In other words, you have some bad emotional habits.
The good news? We can break those bad habits.
First off, let me clarify: emotions are not “bad”, even if they don’t feel good. Labeling the way we feel as good or bad can make us feel worse. How? When we say an emotion is bad, we can begin a stress cycle of feeling “bad”, telling ourselves it’s bad to feel “bad”, which makes us feel worse, which leads to more negative labeling and so on.
Second, the reason we’re responding wit…

I Don't Want To Feel This Way Anymore

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The number one question I'm asked about emotions is “How can I stop feeling anxious/sad/angry/frustrated?”
The short answer, that nobody wants to hear, is you can’t. And if you try not to feel the so-called “bad” or “negative” emotions, you’re going to suffer even more over the long haul. By resisting our emotions we set ourselves up for depression and anxiety.
But WAIT! Don't leave! 
That’s not the whole story and it does NOT MEAN WE ARE DOOMED to feel bad all the time. It simply means “negative” emotions are unavoidable at some point. And if you are struggling with ongoing depression or anxiety you can feel better. Yes, you can.
Let’s get really real: You need to feel the uncomfortable emotions sometimes
Anger, fear, sadness, and frustration serve a purpose. These emotions are both signposts and warnings. They let us know something is wrong, either in our environment, in our thinking, or both. They help us make changes to protect ourselves or others, find solutions to prob…

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Why is it we're taught from a young age to take care of our teeth--brush twice a day and floss--but very little if anything about taking care of our emotional wellness, our happiness, and our resiliency?

Over the last 30 years, I have, through trial and error, found effective ways to manage my anxiety, overcome depression, and maintain my emotional and mental equilibrium. I use/have used emotional aromatherapy, yoga, meditation, cognitive behavioral therapy concepts, common sense, medication, supplements, nutrition, exercise, talk therapy, and neuroscience to maintain my emotional balance. 
And I realized how much I've learned! And how much other's need to learn it, too.
From one average human being to a…